Tibet.net On Monday, the morning of his 80th birthday, His Holiness the Dalai Lama sat down with TIME in Anaheim, Calif. The Tibetan spiritual leader shared his advice on mending a broken heart... by Elizabeth Dias via Time
'I don’t know if you’ve ever been in love, but I’m wondering — how do you heal a broken heart?
Actually, you see, practice celibacy … If you look at the nature of
strong attachment, underlying that strong attachment is a clinging,
grasping, and if you look at other reactive emotions that arise,
actually it is strong attachment that underpins hatred, anger, jealousy,
and so on, so if you somehow are able to look at this and recognize
that a large part of the reception is perception, that could lose some
of this strong grasping. I always remember, in a dream, if … a beautiful
woman or something like that, I remember I am a monk. It is very
'And if you aren’t a monk?
I think the desire for sex goes extreme, always creates some trouble.
So that I think, in Western culture, there is a lot of emphasis on
sensuality, and sexuality is part of that.'